Commemorating Accomplishments

Jay and Laura talk about the importance of commemorating accomplishments and achievements in your marriage, and family as well!

Shoe Crisis!!

This morning Grace had a shoe crisis! She needed her black flats and they were no where to be found! Mom to the rescue…I went into her shoe basket and threw around many different shoes until I found two black ones that matched! SUCCESS!

As I looked for her flats, I realized she had shoes in her closet that she could no longer wear. We needed to clean out her closet and take inventory of what she had, and give some shoes to someone else who might be in need. Then after the clean out, put back the shoes she could actually wear.

In life, we need to take inventory every so often. We need to look at our life plan, goals, purpose. Have we added way to much stuff to our life that is crowding our purpose? Do we need to clean some stuff out?  Then only put back into our life that which meets our purpose?

Years ago, Jay and I went thru a process of developing a mission statement ( you can find this process in our book Make Love Everday) and found that doing so allowed us to let go of some of the “shoes” we had added to our life that did not meet our purpose and goals.

What is your purpose in life? Have you sat down and wrote it out? Is your “closet” feeling crowded with too much stuff? Take time to clean it out, take inventory,and begin to live life with the purpose God gifted you.

We have each been uniquely created! Celebrate and Live your uniqueness!

Laura

Will YOU submit to your husband?

Seriously? Did they really ask that question? Michele Bachman, Republican Presidential Candidate was asked if she was a submissive wife as is commanded in Scripture? Her answer was spot on for which I was thankful but after reflecting on it I became incensed that the question was even posed! She was sharing the stage with the other Republican Candidates, all male, who were not asked if they showed love and respect to their wives, which is also commanded in that same Scripture verse!

Now usually, I do not wax political but I am going to! Why does the media have such a hard time with strong conservative women? Doesn’t the media proport equal rights for women? Are they not forever bashing conservatives for being so “close minded” when it comes to women’s rights? Yet, first with Sarah Palin and now, Michele Bachman, they can hardly wait to make these strong independent women look anything but in the eyes of the American people.

OK I’m done now…Jay’s been loving and kind all day so now I’m going to submit to letting him rub my feet!

Laura~

A Loaded Question!

Jay and I have made it a practice and priority to watch a TV show with our kids. One show a night or week, they choose. With Torrey it was  Survivor. We still watch that to this day even though Torrey is now almost 21!  With Grace it depends on the night of the week!

One of the reasons we started this practice with our kids was due to the conversations that were sparked out of our watching together. The other evening, Grace, Jay and I had watched a show and now it was time for bed- for Grace. As she began to head upstairs, she sighed very deeply and flounced herself down in front of us and asked this question, ” How do you know it is love that will last?”

I looked at Jay, he looked at me…both waiting for the other to answer! Finally, Jay said,” Grace when you love someone because of what they “do for you”, that is just infatuation. BUT when you find the person that you want “to do for them” for a lifetime, now that is love.”  Smartly Grace replied, ” Oh so when it is all about you then it is infatuation, but when it is all about them, that is love that lasts. Okay Goodnight!”

What a profound and easy way to put it! When it is all about you folks it is just infatuation but when it is all about the other person, it is love that will last a lifetime!

What can you do for your spouse today? Let us know how you make your relationship all about the other person.

Can’t wait to hear!

Laura

Men: ever thought of her orgasm as YOUR duty?

“. . . Judaism took the idea of sexual obligation so seriously as to protect a woman’s sexual pleasure, as opposed to simply her right to take part regularly in the sexual act itself.  The sexual act failed to fulfill a man’s duty if the woman did not feel pleasure, that is, achieve an orgasm.”

The Jewish culture has an interesting take on sex in marriage! A man’s duty to his wife is to fulfill her sexually.  I think that many women do not like having sex because they are not being fulfilled sexually so the thought process becomes, “what’s the point”?

Gentleman, your duty is to make sure that your wife is enjoying your sex life and when she is fulfilled, I can guarantee you she will want more! Ask your wife what you can do to make sure this happens. Learn to be a great lover by asking her what she needs.

To read the full post:
http://tinyurl.com/3vbndg9