Commemorating Accomplishments
Jay and Laura talk about the importance of commemorating accomplishments and achievements in your marriage, and family as well!
Shoe Crisis!!
This morning Grace had a shoe crisis! She needed her black flats and they were no where to be found! Mom to the rescue…I went into her shoe basket and threw around many different shoes until I found two black ones that matched! SUCCESS!
As I looked for her flats, I realized she had shoes in her closet that she could no longer wear. We needed to clean out her closet and take inventory of what she had, and give some shoes to someone else who might be in need. Then after the clean out, put back the shoes she could actually wear.
In life, we need to take inventory every so often. We need to look at our life plan, goals, purpose. Have we added way to much stuff to our life that is crowding our purpose? Do we need to clean some stuff out? Then only put back into our life that which meets our purpose?
Years ago, Jay and I went thru a process of developing a mission statement ( you can find this process in our book Make Love Everday) and found that doing so allowed us to let go of some of the “shoes” we had added to our life that did not meet our purpose and goals.
What is your purpose in life? Have you sat down and wrote it out? Is your “closet” feeling crowded with too much stuff? Take time to clean it out, take inventory,and begin to live life with the purpose God gifted you.
We have each been uniquely created! Celebrate and Live your uniqueness!
Laura
Praise Your Wife!
I (Jay) tell men all over the country that they should praise their wife publicly. One way to hold your wife in high esteem is to publicly acknowledge her gifts and abilities. Not only is it the RIGHT thing to do but it screams to the world and more importantly HER that you love her.
This past weekend, I had the privilege of being Laura’s “roadie” as she spoke at a women’s conference at Caraway Conference Center in Sophia, NC. I ran (albeit not well) her Keynote presentation (read slides) from the sound booth, made sure she had water on stage and generally took care of her “every” need… (read rubbed her feet after she wore high heels)…
Anyway, she gave her new presentation “It’s Gotta Be the Shoes” throughout the weekend, and frankly knocked the ball out of the park! Anyone who’s seen one of our date nights and/or one of our conferences is aware of Laura’s love of shoes (doesn’t EVERY woman love shoes?) Well, Laura has taken her love of shoes and created an entire weekend retreat (As well as upcoming book/Bible study) on the different “shoes” that a woman wears in her life. From “Dancing shoes” to “Comfortable Shoes” and many in between.
I was humbled to watch my wife as she wove a wonderful weekend together where the women laughed, cried, and hugged! I was so glad I was firmly planted in the sound booth!
My wife is a fabulous communicator! I have to admit, as I watched her “doing her thang!” that there were tears in my eyes too as I praised the Lord for the gift he’s given me in Laura.
So praise your wife publicly…in fact why not do it right here on this blog! Or…ladies why not share a time when your hubby praised you publicly and tell us how it made you feel.
Blessings~
Jay
A Loaded Question!
Jay and I have made it a practice and priority to watch a TV show with our kids. One show a night or week, they choose. With Torrey it was Survivor. We still watch that to this day even though Torrey is now almost 21! With Grace it depends on the night of the week!
One of the reasons we started this practice with our kids was due to the conversations that were sparked out of our watching together. The other evening, Grace, Jay and I had watched a show and now it was time for bed- for Grace. As she began to head upstairs, she sighed very deeply and flounced herself down in front of us and asked this question, ” How do you know it is love that will last?”
I looked at Jay, he looked at me…both waiting for the other to answer! Finally, Jay said,” Grace when you love someone because of what they “do for you”, that is just infatuation. BUT when you find the person that you want “to do for them” for a lifetime, now that is love.” Smartly Grace replied, ” Oh so when it is all about you then it is infatuation, but when it is all about them, that is love that lasts. Okay Goodnight!”
What a profound and easy way to put it! When it is all about you folks it is just infatuation but when it is all about the other person, it is love that will last a lifetime!
What can you do for your spouse today? Let us know how you make your relationship all about the other person.
Can’t wait to hear!
Laura
Men, Do more house work and get more sex?!
Smart Man!
“Whether it’s doing the dishes or the laundry, men who help out around the house get more sex”, according to sociologists from the University of California. According to the study, when a women feels valued it leads to more sex. So what do you think about this?
Ladies, lets hear from you:
1. Is it true? If your husband helped out more around the house, would he get more sex?
2. Does helping out around the house have anything to do with it?
3. When your husband helps out around the house, do you feel valued? What does he do that makes you feel valued? Does feeling valued have anything to do with sex?
Gentlemen, your turn:
1. Do you believe this? Do you think if you helped out around the house more, you would get more sex?
2. What do you think will lead to more sex?
3. What do you do or can you do to make your wife feel valued? Do you think that will lead to more sex?
Let us know what you think!
