Commemorating Accomplishments

Jay and Laura talk about the importance of commemorating accomplishments and achievements in your marriage, and family as well!

10 things it took me 50 years to learn!

I (Jay) hit the big FIVE – 0 Sunday…not rounds of golf but years on this earth…here’s TEN things I’ve learned:

1. Jesus, decide what you believe then live like you believe it.
2. Marriage, no greater joy on earth than to walk through life with your best friend.
3. Children, the greatest gift we’re given even on days we’re not so sure.
4. Parents, quit blaming them for your problems and remember how much they sacrificed for you.
5. Friends, the family we choose.
6. Health, don’t take it for granted and work hard to keep it.
7. Integrity, let your yes be yes and your no be no.
8. Work, labor at something you love and never work a day in your life.
9. Service, we’re on this earth to bless others so get to it.
10. Laughter, it truly is the best medicine.

I know it’s not much for 50 years but I’m a slow learner

Blessings~
Jay

Sometimes Husband is spelled @$$!

Last week Laura lost a dear friend. Karen was one of Laura’s best friends in college and lost her four year battle with cancer. My wife’s week was filled with anxiety every time she’d get a post from Karen’s “care page”. Most telling was the afternoon Laura spent in tears as she wrote a goodbye email to Karen at her husband Scott’s request. I say “most telling” because Laura is NOT a crier, I AM~

Laura leaves Wednesday morning for Atlanta to attend the funeral on Thursday and she’ll return home Friday because we leave Monday for a convention in Dallas. We’re cramming a weeks worth of work into two days so I can play “SUPER-DAD!” while Laura’s gone.

So WHY is Husband spelled @$$? Because on Friday all I could think about was getting our talks finished for the numerous conferences we’re speaking at this summer.

“C’mon Laura we really need to pound out these talks…get your head in the game! Focus with me, we are running out of time!” Finally she looked at me and said in a quivering voice, “Sorry, I’ve just had a stressful week”

Now wait for it… wait for it…my response…“Why have you had a stressful week?”

The look on her face showed pain I haven’t caused in quite some time…and it certainly made me think…Jay Laffoon you are just an @$$!

Pray for Laura as she heads south…pray that I get my head out of my back pocket! And let’s all pray we continue to learn and grow in this journey called marriage!

Jay (aka @$$)

Marriage Lessons from the NFL!

Last summer we spent a weekend in Charlotte, NC where we had the privilege to spend some time with John and Laura Kasay. John is the place kicker for the NFL’s Carolina Panthers and has been one of the most consistent kickers in the league over his 20 year career.

Do you want to know something interesting? Come the end of July, John will be heading to TRAINING CAMP. Even though John is a 20 year veteran he will go back to do drill after drill and focus on the fundamentals. Why? Because it’s what is needed to be successful!

We challenge couples continuously to “GET AWAY AND GET AHEAD”. Couples who make time to get away from the kids, the job and all that life throws at them are happier, healthier, have a better sex life, and are more contented with life, than those who don’t.

So when was the last time you got away for a “marriage training camp”? Unlike our friend John it DOESN’T have to be drill after drill. It could simply be a romantic weekend away together, or go to a marriage conference of your choice.

Hoping to see you soon!
Jay & Laura~