Shoe Crisis!!
This morning Grace had a shoe crisis! She needed her black flats and they were no where to be found! Mom to the rescue…I went into her shoe basket and threw around many different shoes until I found two black ones that matched! SUCCESS!
As I looked for her flats, I realized she had shoes in her closet that she could no longer wear. We needed to clean out her closet and take inventory of what she had, and give some shoes to someone else who might be in need. Then after the clean out, put back the shoes she could actually wear.
In life, we need to take inventory every so often. We need to look at our life plan, goals, purpose. Have we added way to much stuff to our life that is crowding our purpose? Do we need to clean some stuff out? Then only put back into our life that which meets our purpose?
Years ago, Jay and I went thru a process of developing a mission statement ( you can find this process in our book Make Love Everday) and found that doing so allowed us to let go of some of the “shoes” we had added to our life that did not meet our purpose and goals.
What is your purpose in life? Have you sat down and wrote it out? Is your “closet” feeling crowded with too much stuff? Take time to clean it out, take inventory,and begin to live life with the purpose God gifted you.
We have each been uniquely created! Celebrate and Live your uniqueness!
Laura
Kids Killing your Marriage?
Maybe “killing” is too strong a word…but….nonetheless…Kids in your house add joy and stress to any marriage.
When the kids are young, the details of taking care of a new baby can overwhelm the joy of parenthood. The diapers, the feedings, the sleep deprivation….etc. Most women find themselves having this thought at some point, “Sex? He has got to be kidding!”
As these lovely bundles of joy grow older, the challenges change. Now we add behaviorial issues, extra-curricular activities, homework,etc. Parents find themselves too tired to enjoy each other.
Fast forward a few years, and now they are teenagers. These young adults keep hours that we, as husband & wife, can no longer keep! We find ourselves hiding away in our bedrooms to grab a few moments alone.
Reality is this: as husband and wife we MUST keep “the main thing, the main thing”! More and more couples are identifying themselves as friends rather than lovers. This is a growing trend, and a scary one! Couples need to set boundaries, be creative, and keep the main thing the main thing.
Set boundaries with your children, young or old. One of my biggest pet peeves is couples who allow there school aged children to stay up so late that as a married couple they have no time together. Jay and I have always made our kids go to be at a time that allows us at least an hour together.
Be creative in your time together. Take time for lunch together. Make a date night and get a babysitter. Your kids can do without you for one evening a week!
Keep the main thing the main thing. Loving your spouse, and making your marital relationship the most important human relationship in your life, is the BEST thing you can do for your kids! Your kids will grow up to be healthy, happy, and productive adults if you and your spouse make your marriage a priority above all else.
What do you do to keep “The main thing the main thing?” in your marriage.
