Thinking about DIVORCE? Read this FIRST!
Rarely do we post other people’s writing, but this article is so good we thought it deserved attention.
CAUTION: The language is as rough as the divorce you’re contemplating!
Wasbands And Wives: Seven Reasons To Stay Married
Huffington Post
9-18-11 by Gigi Levangie
Helping you Celebrate Your Marriage!
Jay & Laura
A VISION for Marriage!
Laura, Angie (Our promotions director) and I had lunch today with three men with a VISION for helping marriages in their community. These three men are part of an organization called Men Following Christ out of Warsaw, IN. They drove three and half hours one way to have lunch with us to talk about a comprehensive plan for impacting marriages in their community!
What really impacted us was the scope and substance of the plan they had in place. 1) A “catalytic” marriage event designed for their entire community. Held at the high school, supported by multiple churches, businesses and organizations 2) Preparation for the event that included: a prayer team, a logistics team, a promotion team, an event team and a follow-up team. 3) Multifaceted follow up including Marriage Mentoring and Marriage Small Groups.
Where did their VISION come from? The realization that even though they had GOOD marriages, they wanted GREAT marriages and they wanted the same for others in their community. Their words not ours…”The only way to strengthen our community is to start with the marriages!”
So what’s your VISION?
J&L
Sometimes Husband is spelled @$$!
His name is JAY~
Laura leaves Wednesday morning for Atlanta to attend the funeral on Thursday and she’ll return home Friday because we leave Monday for a convention in Dallas. We’re cramming a weeks worth of work into two days so I can play “SUPER-DAD!” while Laura’s gone.
So WHY is Husband spelled @$$? Because on Friday all I could think about was getting our talks finished for the numerous conferences we’re speaking at this summer.
“C’mon Laura we really need to pound out these talks…get your head in the game! Focus with me, we are running out of time!” Finally she looked at me and said in a quivering voice, “Sorry, I’ve just had a stressful week”
Now wait for it… wait for it…my response…“Why have you had a stressful week?”
The look on her face showed pain I haven’t caused in quite some time…and it certainly made me think…Jay Laffoon you are just an @$$!
Pray for Laura as she heads south…pray that I get my head out of my back pocket! And let’s all pray we continue to learn and grow in this journey called marriage!
Jay (aka @$$)
Men: ever thought of her orgasm as YOUR duty?
“. . . Judaism took the idea of sexual obligation so seriously as to protect a woman’s sexual pleasure, as opposed to simply her right to take part regularly in the sexual act itself. The sexual act failed to fulfill a man’s duty if the woman did not feel pleasure, that is, achieve an orgasm.”
The Jewish culture has an interesting take on sex in marriage! A man’s duty to his wife is to fulfill her sexually. I think that many women do not like having sex because they are not being fulfilled sexually so the thought process becomes, “what’s the point”?
Gentleman, your duty is to make sure that your wife is enjoying your sex life and when she is fulfilled, I can guarantee you she will want more! Ask your wife what you can do to make sure this happens. Learn to be a great lover by asking her what she needs.
To read the full post:
http://tinyurl.com/3vbndg9
So THAT’S what my bed feels like!
Wow, in the last 3 weeks we’ve slept in our own bed a total of 4 NIGHTS! Ok so that is a little insane, but now we’re home and reflecting on the incredible experiences!
Our trip to Singapore was cut short by three days when we chose not to go to Japan as “tourists” so soon after the disaster there. As many of you have read, our time in Singapore was very special where we met fantastic people and truly had the time of our lives.
We then flew to Chennai, India and began a two day travel (via sleeper train) to the remote area in Southern India where our Compassion child James (ok he’s 18 now) resides. We spent an amazing two days with James that we will never forget! (A video recap will be coming later this week!!) India is an overwhelming country, we have no other words to describe it other than overwhelming. EVERY one of your senses is overwhelmed while there and as a result we came away very emotionally drained.
We took 4 different flights to get home and right before leaving India came down with a case of “Delhi Belly” which made travel ohhh soo fun! We got home late Sunday night, the kids did a great job of turning around and heading for school Monday morning while mom and dad spent the week recovering from what ever bug we digested in India!
This last Friday and Saturday nights were spent with wonderful people in Eden, NC and Piedmont, OK who hosted us for our Ultimate Date Night! Then Sunday we had a 4:15am wake up call so we could catch a plane for our Grove Park Inn Celebrate Your Marriage Conference. After circling Detroit Airport for an hour then being re-routed to Ft. Wayne for refueling, it became apparent that we were NOT going to make our 4pm show at the conference!
We were fortunate to have our good friend and true professional Ken Davis fill in for us at 4pm and we took his 8pm slot. Ken did a masterful job of challenging the couples to live “Fully Alive” and we shared our new program entitled “A Rock and Roll Guide to Love, Sex and Romance”. The comments and response from the couples was truly a blessing and as always a confirmation that we are changing lives with the message that marriage was meant to be a CELEBRATION!
Until next week~
Jay & Laura
