Commemorating Accomplishments
Jay and Laura talk about the importance of commemorating accomplishments and achievements in your marriage, and family as well!
OH how we think SO differently!
About a week ago Laura ran over a cat while taking one of Grace’s friends home. When she told me I said “Did it damage your car?” “No, I checked but I KILLED the cat!” She went on to explain how awful she felt and how some pet owner was going to be devastated. I was just glad the car was ok.
So Sunday we drove Laura’s car to church and as I whipped into the parking spot I heard this “schrrrrrrr” noise as I turned sharply into my spot. I looked at Laura and here was the exchange:
J: “What was that?”
L: “Oh yea I’ve been meaning to tell you it’s making a funny noise”
J: “When did it start?”
L: “Right after I hit the cat”
J: “AHHHHHHHH! Why didn’t you tell me?”
L: “I KILLED a cat!”
Like most times in marriage, my male brain was focused primarily on the practical and Laura’s female brain was focused mostly on the emotional. So who’s right and who’s wrong? That’s the WRONG QUESTION!
The better question is how can we use these differences to our advantage in marriage?
For example when Laura sees something beautiful for the house and wants to buy it on an impulse, I have learned to simply ask her “Is it in the budget?” If she says “Yes” then I agree to the purchase if she hesitates for even a moment I know she trying to rationalize and I pounce in with a “NO!”
Share some examples of how you and your spouse use your differences to build your marriage!
We look forward to hearing from you!
J&L
Marriage Lessons from the NFL!
Last summer we spent a weekend in Charlotte, NC where we had the privilege to spend some time with John and Laura Kasay. John is the place kicker for the NFL’s Carolina Panthers and has been one of the most consistent kickers in the league over his 20 year career.
Do you want to know something interesting? Come the end of July, John will be heading to TRAINING CAMP. Even though John is a 20 year veteran he will go back to do drill after drill and focus on the fundamentals. Why? Because it’s what is needed to be successful!
We challenge couples continuously to “GET AWAY AND GET AHEAD”. Couples who make time to get away from the kids, the job and all that life throws at them are happier, healthier, have a better sex life, and are more contented with life, than those who don’t.
So when was the last time you got away for a “marriage training camp”? Unlike our friend John it DOESN’T have to be drill after drill. It could simply be a romantic weekend away together, or go to a marriage conference of your choice.
Hoping to see you soon!
Jay & Laura~
